An Open Letter to the Friends and Family Who Don’t Hear from Me Often

To My Friends and Family Who Feel Forgotten,

I have not forgotten about you all. In fact, there are lots of times while going on with my day, I find myself being reminded of you in some way.

I want you to know that all of the time we have spent together and the valuable memories created during that time, will always be a sacred place stored within my mind. You have done nothing wrong, and my lack of contact with you is independent from how I think or feel about you as individuals. I can assure you that I love you all just as much as I did since the last time you have seen or heard from me.

Keep being you. I enjoy watching your lives from afar. It brings me great joy to see and hear about the next adventures you embark on in life, the schools you are graduating from, your relationships that are blooming, and the children you are having.

Talking to and visiting you often are not necessary for me to feel good about our relationships. In truth, I find too much contact with you decreases the specialness of each of our encounters. I love going for ice cream but If I went everyday, ice cream would become less of a treat to me. You are the ice cream in my life.

I want you to focus on living your own lives, on living out your own journeys. I want you to be where you are, when you are there, so I can do the same for myself. Focus on your own path and be selfish too. When we are meant to share our stories and cross paths, life will have a funny way of helping us do that.

I promise that I will always attempt to contact you when I feel the appropriate amount of time has passed for myself. You might call this selfish and that is okay with me. I know I have the right people in my life when they can handle this.

It might seem odd to you that I can go weeks, months, even years without contacting the ones that I say are important to me. But if you are one to believe that people who are important in your life require a physical exhibit to be reminded of that, then I can understand how this would be conflicting to you.

You see, time and distance don’t change the relationships that are solidified into my life. Personally, it makes me more happy to see all of you out and about doing the things you love than it does to hear from you.

I want to hear about your adventures and stories after you are done living them first.

So to all of friends and family who have not heard from me in a while, you have not been forgotten. I will always love you just as much, no matter how far we are from each other or how much time has passed.

Take care and enjoy your daily journeys… I am looking forward to the next time our paths cross so I can hear all about them.

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